My body type isn't an invite

I'm sure this post is going to ruffle some feathers and might even make me lose some followers but I don't really care, this needs to be said. I don't care if you promote your health and wellness business on social media. Hustle girl! I'll support you and even help you but before you go jumping into someone‘s inbox asking them to buy something or to try a new workout program please ask yourself, "Why am I reaching out to this person?"

I cannot count the number of times someone has messaged me asking me if I was interested in losing weight and that they would love to help me achieve my fitness goals. How do they know what my fitness goals are? They don't. They also don't know that their simple message will probably tear down all the self confidence that I've worked on building up for months. They also don't know about my health issues like PCOS, insulin resistance, and sports injuries that make working out difficult. I have spent my whole life on the bigger size even though I was a well rounded athlete. I played basketball and ran cross-country all throughout middle school then went to dance and cheerleading for high school. I used to workout 5 days a week in college. I have been on countless diets and workout programs since my early 20's and non of them really worked. I would loose 15 lbs and then it would stop even though I was still doing everything the same.

I have never seen myself as the norm beautiful. I have struggled with my self image since I was a little girl. So every time I get one of these messages I go backwards in my progress. I revert back to picking apart every little thing I hate about myself and get depressed again. My husband sees this and is usually the one who it effects the most besides myself obviously. I don't believe him when he says I'm beautiful or that he loves me and my body the way it is.

I have worked tirelessly to retrain myself to love myself and my body the way it is. I'm working to be proud of what my body has done, like carrying two babies in 2 years time. I'm learning I don't need to look like the women on tv or in movies to be loved and have self worth.

So please think about how your simple business promotion message may be perceived by the person receiving it.